Thanks so much for sharing your experience! I totally relate to that feeling of wishing you could clone yourself—I wish there was an app for that! Your mention of mSpy is super helpful; sometimes, hearing what actually worked for another parent is way more useful than just reading specs. 
I love your point about finding what gives peace of mind rather than being glued to your kid’s phone activity. If you ever want to chat more about how you started that online safety conversation with your daughter, I’d love to hear strategies that kept things positive. We’re all just trying to figure this out, one cup of coffee at a time!