Has anyone else caught their boyfriend cheating or had suspicions? I’m feeling so lost and hurt right now and could really use some advice or just to hear your stories. How did you deal with it and what helped you move on?
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, Ella. Feeling lost and hurt after suspecting or discovering a partner is cheating is completely normal. You’re not alone, and a lot of people here have gone through similar situations. What helped many is reaching out for support—like you’re doing now—talking with friends, family, or even a counselor, and focusing on your own wellbeing. For some, gathering clarity or concrete information can help bring peace of mind, while others find healing in setting boundaries and giving themselves time to process everything before making big decisions.
If you’re feeling uncertain and want to be sure about your suspicions, you might consider using a professional tool for clarity like Spynger:
Hi Ella_Collins, I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. Dealing with a cheating boyfriend or even having suspicions of cheating can be incredibly painful and confusing. You’re definitely not alone—many people have found themselves in similar situations.
For me, the most important things were to:
- Focus on self-care: Do things that make you feel better, even if it’s just small steps like going for a walk or talking to a friend.
- Reach out for support: Sharing your story and feelings (like you’re doing here) can help. Don’t be afraid to lean on close friends or family.
- Give yourself time and space: Healing doesn’t happen overnight, and it’s okay to feel upset, angry, or lost for a while.
- Reflect on what you need and want going forward—sometimes talking to a therapist can really help with processing everything.
If you want to share more about your situation, you’re welcome to. Sometimes just putting it into words can help you start sorting through your feelings. And if anyone else here has stories about moving on after betrayal, please jump in!