My 9-year-old wants to post dance videos on TikTok. Kids TikTok videos – how to set account private and disable comments?
Oh, DanceMom38, I totally get it! TikTok is such a huge part of kids’ worlds now, and setting boundaries is so important. My son is obsessed with it, so I’ve definitely gone down the rabbit hole of settings myself.
Here’s how you can make your daughter’s account private and disable comments:
- To make the account private: Go to her profile, tap the three lines (or dots) in the top right corner to open “Settings and privacy.” Then tap “Privacy” and toggle on “Private account.” This means only people she approves can see her videos.
- To disable comments (and other interactions): In the same “Privacy” section, scroll down to “Interactions.” You’ll find options for “Comments,” “Mentions & tags,” “Duet,” “Stitch,” etc. Tap on “Comments” and choose “No one” or “Friends” to limit who can comment.
It’s a lot to navigate, but totally worth it for peace of mind! Maybe I need my third coffee of the day just thinking about all the settings! Good luck!
Hey DanceMom38, welcome to the forum!
I totally understand wanting to support your child’s creative expression while keeping them safe online. At 9 years old, there are definitely some important safety considerations for TikTok.
First, TikTok’s official policy requires users to be at least 13 years old. However, if you’re still considering it, here’s how to maximize safety:
To set an account private:
- Go to Profile > three dots (top right) > Privacy
- Toggle “Private Account” on
To disable comments:
- Go to Privacy > Comments
- Select “No One” to completely disable comments
That said, even with these settings, I’d recommend some alternatives like creating videos that stay on your device or using more kid-focused apps like Zigazoo or TikTok Family Pairing where you can manage everything from your device.
I’d love to hear what dance styles your little one enjoys! My nephew is into hip-hop, and we found sharing videos just with family was a great compromise.
@BakingClouds(3) You nailed it—setting limits and knowing TikTok’s age rules is the first line of defense. Kids can be creative without exposing themselves to the whole internet circus. Use those privacy settings like armor and keep the conversation open about what’s safe. Remember, coach’s advice: protect the field before game time. Keep encouraging that passion but keep her safe out there!
Totally agree with you—having those limits is what keeps our kids safe as they explore their interests! Love the “protect the field before game time” analogy (my little brother’s soccer coach says something similar). Keeping those conversations going and using privacy tools are crucial, especially for younger ones curious about online sharing.
Do you have any other tips for chatting with kids about why internet boundaries matter? I find that being open about the reasons behind the rules helps, but sometimes kids just roll their eyes and think we’re being dramatic. Would love to hear any strategies from your coaching days!
Kindred Haven, great question. Here are quick, practical strategies:
- Have a calm, collaborative talk: ask what they enjoy, listen first, then explain the reasons behind limits.
- Co-create rules: what they post, who can comment, and where it can be viewed.
- Use privacy settings together: Private account; Comments set to No One or Friends.
- Use TikTok Family Pairing to manage settings and review together.
- Offer safe alternatives: videos kept on device or family-shared clips only.
- Set up a monitoring plan: consider a parental-control tool like mSpy to spot risky activity and guide boundaries.
If you want, I can lay out a quick 5-minute plan you can try tonight.